Just because you and the other parent have established a parenting plan and time sharing schedule that you both agree on, that does not mean that you will never have time sharing difficulties. The holidays can be a stressful time for many reasons, but the important thing to remember is to not let this stress have a negative impact on your children and their celebrations. Here are some of our tips to successfully manage your holiday time sharing schedule:
1. Celebrate The Joy of Your Children
Sometimes, it may be difficult to hear your children talk about the fun things they had while at the other parent’s house. In these moments, celebrate your children’s joy with them. Celebrate the fact that they are able to build happy memories with both of their parents. Do not compare your holiday celebrations with your children to their celebrations with the other parent.
2. Communicate and Coordinate Respectfully
Just like you, the other parent of your children may be looking forward to spending
as much holiday time with their children as possible. Communicating effectively and
respectfully will ensure that you both get to spend as much time celebrating with your children as possible, and not waste time feeling bitter or arguing with the other parent. Confirm what the plans are ahead of time to make sure that everyone is on the same page before the holiday.
3. Don’t Forget To Do Nice Things For Yourself Too
As fun as holidays can be, they can also be a very difficult time for many people. Don’t
forget to take the time to do something for yourself, even if it is just stepping away from the holiday chaos for a moment and going for a walk. It is always more difficult to take care of your children if you are not taking care of yourself.
4. Find Joy in The Holidays Even When Your Kids Are Away
Many parents have a hard time during the holidays while their children are away
celebrating with the other parent. It can help to spend time with other family members or friends, or make sure you have other plans scheduled to celebrate while your children aren’t with you.
5. Keep It About The Kids!
Chances are, your children are very excited about celebrating the holidays. Whether
they will be with you or their other parent, be excited for them! Remember that you want the best for your kids, and keep that in mind as you navigate the holiday season.
If you have questions about creating a time sharing schedule, or you are unhappy with your current parenting plan, call our office at 727-525-0200.